One Leg at aTime

There’s no accounting for what will pop into my head when facing the need to write something.

This morning a piece of advice I received from an old work colleague came to mind.  He had, for a number of years before I met him worked as an adviser to a well-known wealthy benefactor of the arts.  When I asked him what it was like to work for someone with immense wealth and notoriety, he said that the important thing to know is that when all of that money is stripped away, he was a person like any other, and the best way to achieve that was remember that he had to put his trousers on one leg at a time, like everyone else.

When I, in my turn, had my own encounters with a very rich man, I had that advice very much at the forefront of my mind.  And very helpful it was too.

Just a brief thought for the day, today.

Home Tourist – Fenton House, Hampstead

Early on a Bank Holiday Monday morning Hampstead is the land of all terrain prams, dog walkers and toddlers in back packs,

It can be surprising how we allow trivial things to cause us anxiety.  For some it’s packing before a trip, for others it’s flying or going somewhere for the first time, or walking into a room full of strangers.

I’m not generally prone to anxiety, but I was in a coffee shop in Hampstead over an hour early to meet my friends because of my worries about finding somewhere to park.  I’d already been extensively through public transport options, but according to the transport for London website the bus would take me an hour and twenty minutes and the tube 55 minutes; driving took me 15.

Hampstead is a higgledy-piggledy cramped part of London, filled with narrow roads and wealthy residents with multiple cars to each residence, where parking is always at a premium.  In London generally there are so many arcane restrictions and rules which can vary from one side of the street to the other, with a significant cost associated with transgression.

I once received a ticket having checked the sign on the opposite side of the road – free after 18:30 – failing to notice, until I returned to find a ticket under the windscreen wiper, that where I had parked it was restricted until 19:00.  I had fallen foul of one particularly mean spirited warden who issued me with a ticket at 18:58.  After that £60 lesson I am now particularly wary; especially when it is impossible to find out what rules apply on a Bank Holiday.

By the time I arrived at the coffee shop I was satisfied that my early arrival had secured one of the few safe spots available.

The purpose of our outing was to visit Fenton House, owned by the National Trust, and one of the earliest mansions built in the area.

I’ve been a member of the NT for years, but true to form, I’ve never visited the properties nearest to me; so it was long overdue to remedy that.

The house has been filled with collections of ceramics and old keyboard instruments, but for us the most attractive thing was the house itself, its beautifully proportioned and symmetrical designs, as well as the garden, which surprisingly includes a small orchard and a well stocked vegetable patch.

And there was a great view of the City from an upstairs balcony.

And in common with every NT property we were kept well in line in our exploration of the house’s interior by the elderly lady volunteers.

I suppose it shouldn’t be a surprise that they exist in London as well as in all the shire counties.

A Puzzle on The Island

This is a photo of the jigsaw puzzle I completed when I was staying for a few days on Atata in Tonga in 1997.

I did the puzzle sitting in the bar of the resort, when it was raining outside but there was still sufficient light to see what I was doing.  There was quite a bit of rain while I was there, but, as part of the game was that the puzzle didn’t correspond exactly to the picture on the box, it took me four afternoons or so to complete it.

For much of the time I had a small crowd around me watching; first it was mainly people who worked in the hotel who paused briefly to watch me sort through the pieces, later, children from the village came to observe and smile behind their hands.   As I approached completion, it felt as if adults from the village had come for an afternoon outing to check it out. It seemed that no-one had ever made such a serious attempt to complete the picture before.

Despite my efforts to get people to help rather than simply watch, they always smiled and shook their heads.

When I had only a dozen or so pieces left I was thwarted by darkness and had to leave it unfinished.  When I came back the following morning I found the resort manager leaning over the table picking out pieces that had been forced into the wrong places.  It seemed that finally one person had given into their fascination and had wanted a go,  without quite understanding the point of it.

There were two pieces missing, so there was a little disappointment in not having a pristine end product, but I will always remember it as my only experience of jigsaw puzzling as a spectator sport.

Up – A Photo

In all the places I’ve visited to see the dug up archaeological remains  of ancient civilisations, it is hard not to be struck by the impression that it is a fundamental human need to build up towards the sky.

I got up very early to see the sun come up behind Angkor Wat, but was a bit fed up that I didn’t capture a better image because of the haze; but it is all part of the ups and downs of the amateur photography experience, so it won’t make me give up..

I’d been sitting down for so long waiting, that I found it near impossible to stand up afterwards.

But on the upside, to keep up our good spirits, we’d bought freshly baked baguettes from a man with stall fixed up on the back of his bicycle on the way into the site, and there was a good old fry up waiting for us at our up-scale hotel as soon as we were ready to take the car back up across town.

On A Pacific Island

Atata School

Seeing ‘South Pacific’ last week, and then hearing the tail end of a piece on the radio this morning about healthcare in Tonga brought to mind the two weeks I spent on Atata, one of the Tongan Islands in 1997.

I was towards the end of a five month trip through South Africa, Australia and New Zealand, and after weeks of being on the move nearly every day I decided I wanted to relax on a beach, somewhere I could fully unpack my bags for the first time in months.  I chose Tonga because someone I had met on route recommended it, and it was easily accessible as the stopover on flights from Auckland to Hawaii.

I didn’t pick the best time of year for sunshine, so it turned into a much more active and  interesting experience than I had expected.

I’d anticipated a sun drenched brightly coloured paradisal island, perhaps the result of absorbing the Gauguin’s palette, but my arrival on a rainy, dark night put me on notice that the reality might be different.  I was due to travel to Atata, one of the smaller islands, the following morning, so I went to a hotel in the main town.

The people were charming, but everything in the hotel was brown.  In my room the walls were light brown, the furniture was chocolate brown, as was the counterpane on the bed and the carpet, and then, when I pulled the covers back, the sheets were caramel brown; clean and fresh smelling, but unmistakably brown.

I sat on the bed in the dim light from a low wattage bulb under a brown shade and fervently hoped that things would be brighter in the morning.

I saw the sun through a hazy sky the following morning on the boat trip to Atata.  One end of the tiny island was home to a village of a couple of hundred people, the other, sandy end, was the site of a small resort, my destination.

Together with a few of the other visitors, one day we were invited to take a tour of the village, including a visit to the school.  I thought we would simply be walking by, but the formidable teacher (in the red shirt on the right in the photo) saw a valuable learning opportunity, for both his charges and us.

We were invited into the classroom and pointed to seats at the front.  All of the children are taught English, so each one was given the chance to introduce themselves.  ’My name is Atamai, I am 8 years old and I live in Atata.’

If we thought all we would be required to do was sit and smile like the Queen Mother, we were disabused of this, when the teacher, in his best teacher voice that none of us would have dared to disobey, instructed us that it was now our turn, pointing to the young Danish woman at the end of the row of tourists.  So transfixed had she been by the little speeches made by each of the children, she started by saying  ’My name is Anna, I am 27 years old and I live in Copenhagen.’

I can’t remember what I said, although I’m fairly sure I didn’t tell them my age, but I did manage something along the lines of ‘I work in an office’, a particularly poor effort even to my ears.

When I asked if I might take a photo, all I’d really meant was a quit snap inside the classroom, but the teacher had everyone up, outside and arranged before I could argue.

There may be more Tongan tales to come…..

I’ll Just Have What I Asked For, Thanks

A few weeks ago I had to phone up to renew my car insurance.  I’d received the quote, I’d checked online to see if there was a better deal out there; if there is I couldn’t find it, so I’d decided to simply have the same again.

This proved to be quite a difficult thing to do; first I had to face down a concerted effort on the part of the person on the other end of the telephone to sell me an upgraded level of cover.

Did I want a recovery service cover? Did I want increase my personal injury cover?  Did I want to increase legal expenses cover?

No. No matter how many times I said that I’d simply like to renew according to the letter they had sent me, she wasn’t listening; she had to go through what I presume was the script on her screen.  Only after she’d been through it all, and I’d turned everything down, was I allowed to have the same again.

It seems to happen all over the place now, someone trying to sell you more than you asked for.

Last week a friend and I were both highly amused and ever more determined to resist  a waitress and her relentless attempts to get us to order more stuff.

It started with her suggesting champagne after we asked for a glass of water each.  She moved on to supplementary bread and olives; all declined.

It was when I ordered a glass of Chilean sauvignon blanc and she suggested the French one, at twice the price, that I began to take note of her pushiness.  She wanted us to order extra side dishes with the meal, more bread with the starters, a dessert and more wine when just under half was remaining in the glass

At each stage we began speculating on what she would be pushing next time she came to the table.

It must be a successful strategy in some circumstances; there are probably customer serivce training courses on the very subject.

In fact, there are probably many occasions on which I have been subjected to the same approach, but more subtly implemented, and have given in; when I’d  meant to ask for the small glass and changed my mind when asked if I wouldn’t prefer the big glass.  Or when I leave it up to fate: in the coffee shop when I tell myself that I can only have the almond croissant if the person behind the counter asks me if I want something to go with my coffee.

Unfortunately,( or fortunately) fate seems to have been trained in the art of selling too these days…..

The Stories of Things

St James

Thanks to comments from Jill on my post a couple of days ago about recycling, I can see there’s still more mileage in that subject.  Talking about taking other people’s cast-offs and turning them into something beautiful or thought provoking reminded me of  Cornelia Parker‘s work ‘Thirty Pieces of Silver’.

The raw material for the work was bits of silver she collected from junk shops, and then crushed with a steamroller.  The value of the silver pieces, special items, perhaps given as a gift, or engraved for a special occasion is gone once the people who gave or received them, or remember why they are special, are gone; and there is a sadness in that, a story lost.

It set me thinking about the stories associated with the things I have in my flat.  As I sit here and look around me I remember where I acquired pretty much everything I can see.  To you it would look like a random collection of furniture and knick knacks; possibly not uncomfortable but not overly colour co-ordinated, nothing of any great intrinsic value nor with much second hand value. But to me they trace a version of my life history and experiences.

I have a three piece ’Utility’ suite first bought second hand by my mother when I was a child, it’s had several incarnations under different covers, but it would be hard now to imagine my room without it.  On the walls I have pictures I’ve bought on trips to Hong Kong, Nepal, South Africa, Spain, Tonga and Japan and I can recall very specifically where and when I acquired each of them.

I haggled over the carpet in the bazaar in Marrakesh, and my sister made the curtains and the throw on the back of the sofa.  The rug I snuggle into if I get chilly watching the television came from Ireland.  The coffee table was a cast off from my parents; they bought it in the 1960s and I cannot remember a time when it was not in our house.  You’d think I would have replaced it by now, but my search for a desirable, affordable alternative is now many years old.  But anyway, thanks to ‘Mad Men’ aren’t the ’60s fashionable again?

A couple of weeks ago my friend A, with whom I shared many of my Moscow experiences, visited the flat for the first time with her children.  They all paused and examined my collection of Russian geegaws, the Lomonosov cups and saucers, the Palekh lacquer boxes and carved wooden figures, comparing mine with A’s extensive range,

‘I didn’t know you had one of those. ‘

‘I’ve always liked yours more.’

marking the significance of all those shared memories.

An Exchange of Views or a Rant?

A couple of weeks ago I was forced into a review of how much I really wanted to engage with the world over the internet.

I began this blog as a way to dip half a toe in the waters of the online world, on the basis that the only way to learn how to use social media as a tool was to experiment and try it out.  I hadn’t really thought about a readership or the nature of any interactions; how could I, I didn’t know anything about it?

I was astonished when I received comments from strangers who had found something interesting to which to respond; really that was lesson number one, that writing can find an audience if given an opportunity.  Engaging in those exchanges of ideas has been one of the surprises of the adventure.

Early on in the year I wrote a post about what I like and dislike about BBC Radio 4.  This is the post that I think has received the most hits and comments since I started, largely, probably, because the BBC website picked it up as a link on one of its pages.  Some of the comments vehemently disagreed with my remarks, while some appeared to think I was something to do with the BBC, rather than just a fondly critical member of its audience.

At WordPress’s recommendation I have the default settings for Comments on the blog, which means that any comment from a new contributor is held for moderation before publication on the page.  I made the decision that I would ‘allow’ any comment so long as it wasn’t offensive to me.

And until last week I had no dilemmas – some people disagree with me and are fired enough to want to tell me, and I’ve been happy to read and reply; that’s debate, isn’t it?

But last week I received a diatribe that began ‘Sorry, but’, ominous words generally indicative of an absence of remorse, about a post I wrote months ago, and which I had to read again in order to recall what I’d said.   My observations had been about my reactions to the ambiguous morality dramatised in an American TV tragicomedy.

My new (anonymous) correspondent wrote at length, although I didn’t read it all, in prurient detail of the things they objected to in one episode they had evidently been forced to watch to all the way through just to confirm how nasty they knew it was.

It was like someone banging on my front door and shouting unintelligibly through the letter box.

It was all so angry that I didn’t really want it on my blog.  But what about my decision to engage with the world in an exchange of views?  I couldn’t decide what to do, so I left the comment in my ‘awaiting moderation’ queue where it was highlighted every time I logged on to the blog.  I had a real debate with myself every time I saw it.

Two days after it arrived, while I was still dithering, I got another shouty comment along the lines that ‘I knew you wouldn’t want to publish an honestly expressed view’.

Phew; permission to delete both messages.

Only later did it occur to me to look online for help with the dilemma on protocol.  Of the various bits of advice available, which might be broadly summarised as ‘do what you want’, I’m taking on board that the blog is my home and I can invite or decline access to anyone I choose, based on whatever standards of behaviour I set.

So, let’s debate it!

One Woman’s Junk is Another’s Treasuretrove

I’ve just been struggling with the lids of the recycling bins outside.  There are separate green plastic wheeley bins for a random selection of refuse, and I do my best to be a good citizen; to sort and keep tin cans, plastic bottles, paper and cardboard separate, but in a small kitchen it can be a challenge to store it, so I’m forever taking bits and pieces out.  And the lids get me every time, falling back on my hand, no matter how speedy I think I’m being.

Every time I go out to those green bins  it reminds me that organised mandatory  recycling, under threat of penalty, as we are in London, is a feature of a wealthy, prosperous society.  People who live with less, have less to throw away and they use and reuse everything they have until it is impossible to use it any more; not because they prefer to be ‘green’ and ecologically responsible, but because they can’t afford to waste anything.

I like to think I keep waste to a minimum, but it remains a fact that if I threw nothing away I’d soon be crowded out of my home.  So I sort my rubbish, take things to charity shops and try not to acquire more stuff that needs ‘management’.

It’s  a couple of years since I went on a big trekking holiday, but when I was a regular on high altitude trips there was a routine that at the end of the trek everyone would leave a piece of equipment or clothing for the local support team.  When the group leader first suggested it, I always felt a bit embarrassed offering up something that, after a couple of weeks up a mountain, might not even be that clean, and was invariably told not to worry and hand it over.

At the flat I lived in in Moscow in the mid 1990s the communal rubbish bin was a huge battered green open topped skip with sides so high that some of the smaller residents had to stand on tiptoe to empty their buckets of waste over the side.  I soon learned that I was rare in lining my kitchen bin with a plastic bag; most people didn’t waste such a valuable item when all you needed to do was wash out the bin after you’d emptied it.

Only true waste went into the skip; anything that might have a future life was left lying beside it: small pieces of furniture, old bags, general bric a brac, and in no time it would be gone, spirited away by someone who had a use for it.

When I left the city I gave away all the fully functioning things I had acquired during my stay in that expat roundabout exchange of table lamps, fans and generally ‘useful until you find something better’ stuff that I’m sure goes on the world over.  But I was still left with a pile of wonky, broken things: a suitcase with a big hole in the side, shoes ruined by snow, a winter jacket that had frayed at the cuffs; I packed them all up together and left them by the bin and rushed back inside, fearing that someone would run after me to tell me off.  Of course no-one did, and when I went out again, a couple of hours later, it was all gone.

I sometimes wonder who took it, and what they did with it.

‘Beautiful Lies’ (‘De Vrais Mensonges’)

It’s quite silly, just the acceptable side of farce,  very lightweight and probably about 20 minutes too long, but it’s a good Friday night movie, and I left the cinema after seeing ‘Beautiful Lies’ with a smile on my face.

Audrey Tautou, the personification of the skinny gamine, plays Emilie, the dotty owner of a hair salon, who tries to cheer up her recently separated Mother, Maddy, played by Nathalie  Baye, by sending her an anonymous love letter.  The comedic set up is that this letter was originally sent to Emilie by Jean, the shy, but over educated, handy man at the salon, played by Sami Bouajila.  Complications, misunderstandings and embarrassments ensue, when Maddy believes that the letter have been sent to her by Jean.

There was nothing laugh out loud funny, but some of the exchanges are amusing.  While the camera lingers on Tautou’s wide eyed reaction shots, I preferred the performances from Baye and Bouajila whose faces passed from happiness to pain via puzzlement as the plot meandered through the various iterations of who sent what to whom.

It would be going too far to say that either the plot or the characterisations made very much sense, but there are enough entertaining scenes to maintain interest, and the bright sunshine of the seaside town setting and the cluttered décor of the salon (or ‘spa’  as the subtitles styled it) gave it an unmistakably French backdrop.

I liked the silliness of the premise that Jean is a former multi lingual official from UNESCO who has opted out for a job with few responsibilities;  he writes the beautiful, old fashioned, love letter but makes Emilie nervous that she is making grammatical errors in French; and then, when she visits his apartment unexpectedly he rushes to hide his stacks of books behind a curtain.

There are some slightly discordant moments when it appears that Emilie attempts to pay Jean to play gigolo for Maddy, but he does get his own back on her; and the final resolution is as entirely unlikely as it is predictable, but the smile quotient was still pretty high.

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